Do you remember what it was like when you first started dating your spouse? It was a magical time, right? Maybe it was only a year ago, or maybe it was 20. But either way, it probably feels like yesterday. Here’s the good news … nothing is stopping you from continuing to date your spouse! In fact, it’s essential that you do.
We’ve compiled 10 date your spouse ideas to help you stay connected, on the same page, and deeply in love with each other.
Know Your Love Languages
Before diving into fun ways to date your spouse, we want to take a moment to chat about love languages. The 5 Love Languages® is a book written by Gary Chapman that captures the five ways people receive and express love:
- Receiving Gifts
- Words of Affirmation
- Physical Touch
- Quality Time
- Acts of Service
Everyone receives and feels love differently! So, it’s important to know how your spouse feels most loved by you by understanding their love language. If you don’t know what your love languages are, take the love language quiz to find out!
10 Date Your Spouse Ideas
Now that you know how to love your spouse best, let’s talk about how to date your spouse!
1. Write Notes or Letters
You don’t have to save your words for birthdays and Valentine’s Day. Write spontaneous notes or letters to your spouse to show you’re thinking about them. If your spouse has “words of affirmation” as their love language, this is a great one!
2. Give Surprise Gifts
Again, no need to wait for special occasions to surprise your loved one with a gift! If your spouse’s love language is “gifts”, they will appreciate a thoughtful gift any time of the year! Even if it’s flowers, their favorite treat, or something that simply makes you think of them, the smallest gesture will mean more than you think.
3. Go on Regular Date Nights
Whether it’s once a week or once a month, make an effort to have a regular date night with your spouse. This caters to the “quality time” love language! Keep it simple with a coffee date and walk around town or go bigger with a fancy dinner out! Either way, the consistent quality time spent together is worth it.
4. Have a Movie Night or Game Night
Looking to stay in for a date night? You can still share quality time at home with a fun movie or game night! Dust off your cribbage board and have a fun (and FREE) night together. Or if you opt for a movie night in, cuddling up will cater to your spouse with “physical touch” as a top love language.
5. Cook Dinner for Your Spouse
Is your spouse’s love language “acts of service?” Consider cooking dinner for them! And bonus points if you do the kitchen clean up as well. This will surely help your spouse feel seen, heard, and loved.
6. Go for a Drive
There’s something about going for a drive with no destination in mind. With limited distractions, spend time driving to a new area in town (or out of town). The conversations to be had on the road have the potential to be fruitful, meaningful, and will certainly fill the emotional cup of your “quality time” partner.
7. Hug for 10 Seconds
Did you know that hugging for at least 10 seconds is good for your health? In this article is states, “Hugging for just 10 seconds can increase feel-good hormones like oxytocin, which causes stress chemicals like cortisol to drop and help lower your blood pressure.” Not to mention, your “physical touch” partner will feel more loved than ever by 10 second hugs on the daily.
8. Use Your Words
Whether your spouse’s love language is “words of affirmation” or not, it’s always a good idea to tell them how much you love and care for them. Phrases like, “I love you,” “I’m so proud of you,” or “I enjoy spending time with you,” go a long way in strengthening a marriage.
9. Volunteer in Your Community Together
There’s nothing like making a difference in your community. And when you participate in “acts of service” together, your bond will only grow stronger. Here are a few ideas:
- Participate in a community garden.
- Volunteer at a food bank or soup kitchen.
- Go shopping at a ministry or service-focused thrift store.
- Pick up trash at your local parks.
Regardless of how you decide to serve your community, you will be spending time together while making a positive impact on the world around you. What a special way to date your spouse!
10. Have a “Team” Meeting
This last tip is one that not only encourages quality time, but it helps with communication. Take time at least once a week to get on the same page discussing events, appointments, and anything else going on for the week. This is also a great time to express your gratitude and how you felt loved lately by your husband/wife. ❤️
Date Your Spouse for a Lifetime
“Dating” doesn’t end at marriage! It takes effort and intentionality to continue to love your spouse in the way that they feel most appreciated and cared for.
Looking for other ways to strengthen your marriage? Check out our blog, “4 Ways to Strengthen the Friendship in Your Marriage” for tips!